To Annie, please:My partner and I have been together for nine years. He seems so aloof lately, and I can’t help but find it bothersome. It all changed around a year ago. He became secretive with his buddies, started hiding his phone, had several social media accounts, etc.
I’ve been having gut feelings for a while, and when I discussed them with him, he advised me to never believe them. This confused me because my intuition has always been correct throughout my life. I’ve brought up his altered behavior with him numerous times, but each time he gets angry and snaps at me or ignores me.
He and I are still together. I could spend the rest of my life with this man because I love him so much. However, I’ve reached a stage in my life when I’m prepared to mature and realize my goals. Although I would really like for him to be by my side for that, I can’t help but notice how he’s acting. I simply want to know what’s going on, but I don’t think I’ll ever truly understand or get the truth from him.
It’s said that what occurs in the shadows always finds its way to the light. However, when? It would be heartbreaking to work on things just to discover later that my intuition was correct. I’m not sure what to do right now, but I want to trust him and spend my latter years with him. Are you able to assist? — Divided Between Doubt and Love
To Torn,You should definitely trust the information your stomach has been trying to convey. Your partner has been deceiving you into doubting yourself by ignoring all of the warning signs you’ve seen. In a good, loving relationship, he would be making every effort to calm your fears and establish his reliability. In actuality, he is unable to be.
To Annie, please:I’ve spent more than two and a half years in a long-distance relationship. Despite never having met, we have been exchanging emails for a long time. She lives in Birmingham, Alabama, and I’m in Tennessee, but she spends a lot of time in Seattle for work. Both of us are seventy years old. I’m into her, and she seems to be into me.
I’ve made numerous attempts to meet her, offering to travel to Seattle or even meet in Las Vegas. Naturally, I never hear back from her when she says she has to think it over. She hasn’t responded when I’ve asked her why she won’t meet.
She has never requested presents or cash from me. I am aware that she had a difficult divorce a long time ago. Particularly given our age, we have all experienced difficult times. She is a perfect fit because she is a Capricorn. My issue is that I don’t give up when I see something I desire, even though I know you’ll advise me to stop. That might be my weakness!
She has told me that I’m beginning to tear down some of her barriers, so call me crazy. Am I stupid? — Insane
To Crazy:Even if it is difficult to hear, you only have this individual as a pen friend for a maximum of two and a half years. The most worrisome thing is that in the years you’ve known her, this woman hasn’t even permitted a phone call.
It’s obvious that this individual isn’t ready for a romantic relationship if they are who they claim to be. It’s unclear if that’s because of her nasty divorce or because she doesn’t view you as her future partner. We do know that you deserve a relationship that is genuine and has the ability to last, and this woman isn’t that woman, at least not at this moment.
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